Money Together: Building Love, Equity, and Wealth Without Keeping Score
Balancing invisible labor, income gaps, and money mindsets to create healthier financial partnerships.
Money and love don’t come with a rulebook—but they do come with plenty of emotions, power dynamics, and unspoken expectations.
In this episode of Everyone’s Talkin’ Money, I sit down with Heather and Douglas Boneparth, the husband-and-wife team behind the new book Money Together.
Heather, a lawyer-turned-writer, and Douglas, a nationally recognized financial advisor, share candid insights about the real challenges couples face when it comes to money—and how to turn those challenges into stronger, more equitable partnerships.
You’ll hear:
- Why “trust” isn’t enough when one partner disengages from money decisions.
- How caregiving and emotional labor factor into financial fairness.
- The biggest money missteps couples make (and how to avoid them).
- How to move from financial independence to true interdependence without losing yourself.
- Why “fair” doesn’t always mean “even”—and how to redefine equity when income levels differ.
- How to start money conversations earlier in dating to gauge compatibility.
- Practical ways to bring more joy and balance to your financial life as a couple.
If you’ve ever wondered how to merge love and money without resentment, hidden debt, or endless fights, this episode will give you the tools and inspiration to start building wealth together.
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Heather and Douglas Boneparth
Co-Authors, Money Together: How to find fairness in your relationship and become an unstoppable financial team
Heather and Douglas Boneparth are the co-authors of Money Together, a book of groundbreaking insights about love, money, and equity in modern relationships. Heather is a lawyer-turned-writer with deep insights into caregiving and emotional labor. Douglas is a nationally recognized financial advisor and founder of Bone Fide Wealth in New York City. Together, they bring a warm, candid, and actionable approach to one of the most personal topics in our lives: money. They also write a weekly newsletter called The Joint Account on Substack.